I never dreamed marrying a military man would be the cause of every major shift in my life. And yet, here I am, life flipped upside down in the best way imaginable. Marrying my husband opened my mind to a world I knew nothing about and brought me down a path I never could have imagined. That life lead me to where I am today; the proud wife of a Sea Bee, mother to a beautiful one year old daughter (and pregnant with my second child) and independent business owner, working as a birth doula and training for my childbirth education certification. The drive I feel to be part of the world of birth started in 2014 when my husband and I experienced a devastating miscarriage. I fell into depression and spent months trying to make sense of the loss I felt. That’s when the research started. I read every book I could get my hands on, watched documentaries and read articles and talked to anyone in the field who would take the time to answer questions. The more I learned, the more I wanted to know.
I feel that it’s important to mention I did some serious reading and preparing the moment I found out I was pregnant. I knew from the beginning I wanted a natural, unmedicated birth. I believe because I educated myself on the many options surrounding labor and delivery, I was able to have an empowering birth experience. Besides all the research, I also watched many natural birth documentaries, hired a doula and signed myself up the Hypnobirthing childbirth series here on island.
The stresses of being military and having separations from your spouse or significant other, or being a single parent pose an especially unique challenge to our community. Many service members don’t know where to go or who to turn to in this special time in their lives and feel incredibly alone.
Military families often live minimally right? Moving every few years we become experts in packing, making lists and sleeping on air mattresses or in hotels for weeks at a time.
What happens when it comes time to have a baby and packing for the hospital? I giggle a little when parents bring with them everything short of the kitchen sink. So here are some tips to help guide you prepare and get that birth bag ready to go.
There are some staggering birth statistics for the United States of America; a developed country with some of the best doctors in the world and yet a rising maternal mortality. It is therefore no surprise that many women and families are returning to personalized community support systems to help them through labor and delivery. One specific labor support person is the birth doula.