Military families in general are very resilient and resourceful! I learn new things from my neighbors and my community members all the time! Most new parents or young families are surprised at all of the things being offered just for their military family! From scholarships, to base wide baby showers, ball gown giveaways etc. It’s just a matter of connecting and showing people where the resources are. Moving every 3 years really means starting over finding the things your family loves or needs.
I spent the week leading up to my husband's patrol doing everything and anything to get labor started with my second daughter. During the birth of my first daughter he had stood by my side, supporting me in the most strong, empathetic and surprisingly calm manner. I was terrified to watch him leave without first getting hold our newest addition. Unfortunately, our time ran out and he had to return to sea.
I never dreamed marrying a military man would be the cause of every major shift in my life. And yet, here I am, life flipped upside down in the best way imaginable. Marrying my husband opened my mind to a world I knew nothing about and brought me down a path I never could have imagined. That life lead me to where I am today; the proud wife of a Sea Bee, mother to a beautiful one year old daughter (and pregnant with my second child) and independent business owner, working as a birth doula and training for my childbirth education certification. The drive I feel to be part of the world of birth started in 2014 when my husband and I experienced a devastating miscarriage. I fell into depression and spent months trying to make sense of the loss I felt. That’s when the research started. I read every book I could get my hands on, watched documentaries and read articles and talked to anyone in the field who would take the time to answer questions. The more I learned, the more I wanted to know.
I feel that it’s important to mention I did some serious reading and preparing the moment I found out I was pregnant. I knew from the beginning I wanted a natural, unmedicated birth. I believe because I educated myself on the many options surrounding labor and delivery, I was able to have an empowering birth experience. Besides all the research, I also watched many natural birth documentaries, hired a doula and signed myself up the Hypnobirthing childbirth series here on island.
The stresses of being military and having separations from your spouse or significant other, or being a single parent pose an especially unique challenge to our community. Many service members don’t know where to go or who to turn to in this special time in their lives and feel incredibly alone.